any of the myths about violence against women fit in a category called “victim-blaming.” As the label suggests, victim-blaming encompasses any thoughts, beliefs or statements that imply that the victim in some way deserved, desired or is culpable for the crime committed against them. This includes focusing on what the victim could have done to avoid victimization (instead of focusing on finding ways to prevent perpetration of these crimes in the first place or holding the perpetrator accountable).
Victim-blaming is dangerous because it takes the focus off of holding perpetrators accountable and makes it less likely that a victim will come forward and report the criminal act because she believes that she will be blamed for the violence she experienced.
A note about pronouns: sometimes on this site “she” is used for the victim or survivor and “he” is used for the perpetrator. This is not meant to deny the existence of same-sex violence, and everything here also applies to those situations. There are also additional factors in same-sex situations that are included in each section. The gendered pronouns are also not meant to deny or minimize the experiences of men victimized by women. These pronouns are kept despite the need for gender inclusivity because the reality is that the vast majority of perpetrators are men and the violence is fueled and allowed for by general patriarchal structures and deep-seated misogyny and sexism. To lose the gendered frame is to fail to hold those systems accountable.